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I AM NOT YET DEAD, I CAN DANCE AND I CAN SING!

Hi guys! Happy February! ūüėĬ†february is that you.jpg

2016 is moving along so fast, I’m sure many of you may agree when I say it feels like a race!

guitar.pngI’ve already taken 3 tests and 10 quizzes, learned about 75% of the 6 pieces of music we’re focusing on in chorus right now, written 3 songs (with guitar >.<), and read 7 books.

While all of those things were incredibly exciting (minus the tests of course) and made for a great January, I’d have to say that my biggest accomplishment so far this year was trying something new.

Typically, upon hearing¬†the words ‘try something new’, many of us feel the urge to hide under our blankets.¬†Try something new?¬†No thanks!

However,¬†trying something new may open doors to new possibilities for you. You may discover something about yourself that you hadn’t known before. You might discover¬†new strengths or talents. You might find out that you like something new.

Or that¬†you like trying new things. ūüėČ

Allow me to share my experience…

Our first unit in theatre was specific to musical theatre. The unit started with a lecture about the golden age of musical theatre, some of the most important shows, and all the different types of musical theatre.sweeney todd.jpg

Once the lecture was over and we had taken our test on it, we watched the staged version (which, sadly, doesn’t have Johnny Depp in it) of Sweeney Todd to get a feel for what musical theatre was really like.

After watching the entirety of the show and taking yet another test (this time on Sweeney Todd), we were allowed to pick groups of individuals to create our own musical theatre number! ¬†ūüėÄ

I was ecstatic to be included in a group made up of my friends and some of the most talented kids in our class!

We were given two weeks (with a little under 10 hours) to complete our number. We had to have the song memorized, choreographed and have costumes, a backdrop and props. And yes, emoji singing.pngwe had to *le gasp* actually sing!

Our first step was to pick the song we wanted to perform. monty pythons spamalot.jpgHe’s Not Dead Yet from Spamalot turned out to be the best choice for us. Everyone would have something to do, and we could be as crazy and over the top as we wanted, as this was a very humorous number.

Once we decided who would play who, and who would sing what, we attempted blocking. For those who don’t know, blocking is when the director tells the actors where to move onstage for proper dramatic effect (when to sit down, when to stand up, etc.).

group project time to relax while you watch someone who cares do all the work.jpg

As a group, we left the weight of blocking the entire number on the shoulders of one kid. And though he had some great ideas that we ended up using, surprisingly I found myself coming up with random ideas for what the choreography could be and what the other characters, that were being a bit neglected, could do in the background.

After two days of trying to come up with more ideas (five days of rehearsals), I decided to speak up.

The kid who had been blocking everything was actually happy to have some help.

And the result of trying something new from my end (versus just going with the flow) yielded an amazing musical number that lots of people loved including our theatre teacher!

So what did I learn? I realized that my ideas are worth something. I also discovered that having a contribution from more than one person in a group project can have a great outcome. I learned that I have skills that I wasn’t even quite aware of!

Going with the flow is the easy way, and sometimes the easy way is okay. But other times, you have to challenge yourself to try something different, do something different. You never know what gifts will be revealed about yourself. ūüėČ

When was the last time you tried something new? Or stepped outside your comfort? Share, and let’s discuss!

Until next time!

~ Rina Raj

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Bullies are Like Boogers… No One Likes Them.

This week, I’d like to write about a topic I’ve been wanting to write about for quite some time. Bullying.ouch bullying hurts

The dictionary’s definition of bullying is “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance.”

Unwanted.

Bullying may be unwanted but it is also¬†unneeded. Many of us have¬†enough on our¬†plates and just don’t need someone picking on us¬†all the time.

dont talk about me until you have talked to me dont underestimate me until you challenge me dont judge me until you know meAnd the one thing that confuses me is why so many people get bullied even after movies like Cyberbully came out.

It seems to me like some people get pleasure from making others feel bad about themselves.

A few years ago, one of my friends had a very traumatizing experience with some bullies.

Let’s call her Nancy.

Nancy had just broken up with her first boyfriend, and she had a perfectly valid reason to. She wasn’t ready for a relationship. Nancy’s ex-boyfriend (let’s call him Derek) didn’t take kindly to that and wound up spreading rumors that he had broken up with Nancy because she¬†wanted to get physically intimate with him.

Talk about not handling the situation very well.

Within a matter of days, everyone that knew Nancy and Derek believed theyou dont know their story dont judge rumors that Derek and his friends had spread about Nancy. Behind her back (and to her face), Nancy was called a “slut” and a “whore”.

Even some of her friends were gossiping about her and assuming the worst without even talking to Nancy about it first.

It tore her up to have people so close to her turn their backs and become part of the problem, especially when none of it was even true.

And yes, eventually the rumors faded and everything went back to being as normal as it possibly could, but those memories stuck with Nancy, and she probably won’t ever forget them.

I have another friend who is currently being picked on. We’ll nickname her Becky.

Becky isn’t the most athletic person on earth, and this results deathballin her hiding during dodgeball.

Hiding = not getting hit.

Not getting hit = not getting out.

(For those who do not understand the game of dodgeball, if you get hit by the ball, then you’re out of the game.)

Not getting out = last one left.

As the last one left on her team, the rest of the team consented to yelling at her to catch a ball so one of them could get back in.

Catching a ball wasn’t really the first thing on her mind when she got pelted from all angles.

Recently, one of the older guys in her class has been picking on her because of her lack of athletic ability. A couple weeks ago, she found out that he gets bullied as well. This detail only made her more angry.

“I get it, okay? He gets picked on, but that is¬†no excuse for him to make me
feel like I’m worth nothing and I’m a fail at everything when in reality the one thing I can’t do is catch a dodgeball.¬†You want me to feel sorry for him? Maybe if he didn’t make me feel so sorry for myself, I would.”

So to sum this up, bullying is not fun. It may make you feel like a better you because you’re on a higher status than the person you’re picking on, but in reality…. your status is way, way deep down in the cellar.dont stand by stand up stand strong stand together

As deep down as love in the Grinch’s heart. *BA-DUM-TSS*

Have any of you dealt with situations similar to Nancy and Becky? What are your experiences with bullying? Do share!

Until next time!

~Rina Raj

 

DON’T TOUCH MAH SPACE! Questions and Answers

october lolHi everyone, Happy October! ūüôā

For this week‚Äôs Typical Tuesday, I decided to do a Q/A blog post. I‚Äôve received several questions and comments from many of you and so,¬†I’ve decided to answer a couple¬†today! ūüôāQ&A

For privacy reasons, I won‚Äôt name any of the individuals¬†who have asked these questions. I‚Äôll use their initials instead. ¬†Here we go! ūüôā

Q: I’m concerned about some of my friends. Some of them¬†are not getting enough sleep, or eating breakfast and lunch. Occasionally they eat dinner, but when I ask why they skip meals, they say they ‘don’t feel like eating‚Äô. I try my best to help them out by sharing my lunch, but they are starting to get upset¬†at me for pestering them to stay alive. What should I do? ‚Äď I.F.
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A: Wow, I think your friends are probably stressed. And I feel many of us can probably relate to this, including myself.

If your friends aren‚Äôt even remotely hungry, it could¬†be the stress as a result of¬†their classes, the amount of¬†¬†homework they may have, or a test they may need to take. It’s so wonderful of you to want to share your lunch and help your friends however, it will be difficult to¬†help them unless they open to receive¬†the help.

I can say from personal experience that when I don’t want help with something, and someone continues to offer the help anyway, I get seriously annoyed.

Of course, your scenario is a bit different. These are your friends and you’re obviously worried about them not eating, which would concern anyone to say the least.

As to what you should do, explain your concern to your friends and ask if they would like your help. Let them know you are concerned for them. If they choose to not receive your help, then you will need to respect their decision. ¬†Hopefully in time, they will come to you however if needed. At least they’ll know they have a friend they can count on. ūüėČ

Q: I have a friend who I have known for about a year now and our friendship is okay at times, fun at times, and then horrible at times. Sometimes I try to keep my distance but I have found this to be¬†impossible. She physically abuses me by hitting me in the face with textbooks, kicking me, or hitting me on the head really hard. I tell her to stop but she doesn‚Äôt. We carpool to school sometimes and I share things with her but sometimes I feel like she is a bad influence to me. The truth is, I feel uncomfortable at times. How can I keep my distance from her but still stay friends with her? ‚Äď H.S.

A: Wow, it just so happens that I can relate to this. Now granted, I’ve never been in a situation where one of my friends physically abused me by hitting me and such, but I have been in a situation where a friend did hurt me emotionally.

It was basically the same concept; we laughed together, shared secrets withmaleficent each other and did all of that BFF stuff, but sometimes she became as evil as Maleficent!

She’d insult me and make me feel like I wasn’t¬†fit to be on the planet. And then the next day, she’d go back to treating me like we’re¬†best friends. My solution was to cut her off completely. She was making me feel bad about myself and I wasn’t at all comfortable being around her. Of course I felt bad about distancing myself from her, but it helped my confidence increase and improved my¬†mood a lot.

Your friend doesn’t seem as though she is aware of your personal boundaries, and your space bubble should never be invaded, especially if you feel uncomfortable. It’s only natural that you would feel uncomfortable¬†about this.personal space

Since¬†you’ve tried telling her to stop hitting you, I’d say the next step is to talk to her about it during one of those great¬†days you both share. Make it clear to her¬†that you don’t appreciate the abuse and that she needs to stop. If she doesn’t respect your boundaries and¬†continues the same behaviors, then you may need to distance yourself completely.

Sure you can remain friends, yes, but remember that true friendship comes with respect.

I hope that my answers to your questions are helpful and I will try to address more of these Q/A’s in the near future. I really enjoyed reading your questions, comments and of course, sharing my experiences.¬† ūüôā

Now readers, if you can relate to these two individuals and have some additional suggestions you’d like to share,¬†please comment below. I’m sure these individuals would appreciate it.

Until next time!

~ Rina Raj