Hey guys, it’s definitely been a while! I’ve done so much over the past month and a half, it’s hard to keep track.
In February, I turned 15 years old (though my mom still says I’m 14 *rolls eyes*) and I (successfully!!!) performed a Bollywood dance at a fundraising event with my sister and dance instructor. It was an awesome experience!
In the beginning of March, my school’s chorus program traveled to MPA (music performance assessment) and all 4 choirs received superior ratings (the best you can get, which means we all get to go to state MPA now!!!).
One of the most important things I’ve noticed – especially throughout February and March – is how lightly our generation takes sex. Yup, you read that right. Sex is the hottest topic of discussion in school as early as elementary school these days.
In my opinion, sex is an important topic, something that needs to be discussed and that’s worth bringing to light in order to better understand. We can’t pretend it isn’t happening. It is, and with consequences in many situations.
After conversing with a girl my age who was having unprotected sex with multiple partners, and was having a pregnancy scare and planning to abort her baby (which she promptly did), I couldn’t fight the urge of wanting to gather statistics and write a post about this.
I decided to gather opinions from 30 females (friends, and friends of friends) who are currently in high school regarding their thoughts on sex. Here’s what some of these female students had to say.
“Do what you want, it’s your body. But it’s better to love and trust the person first.”
“Wait until after high school.”
“We’re all still babies!”
“You should not do it unless you wanna be 16 and pregnant and on TV.”
“If you don’t wanna do it, then you’re just f***ing weird.”
“It should be embraced. You’re in high school, you should have fun.”
“Don’t do it.”
“I don’t think you should have sex in high school.”
“You shouldn’t have sex in high school.”
“If it’s with someone you truly love, then okay if you want to.”
“I don’t think you should in high school, you have your whole life ahead of you.”
“I think it’s stupid to have sex in high school, unless it’s rape and you don’t have a choice.”
“I think you should wait.”
“I think you should wait because you don’t know if that person is just using you for your body. In high school, sex is just something for people to brag about.”
“It depends on who it is.”
“Definitely not in high school. Wait until marriage. Sex should be special because it’s for your life long partner and so you shouldn’t, like, waste it on other people.”
“As long as your intimacy is in private and you don’t publicly flaunt it, it’s okay. It is your body and you do what you want. If you believe in abstinence then go ahead and abstain. If you feel confident and you are willing, then go right ahead. Personally, I’m not sure if I would have sex in high school. I’m a freshman and I’m naïve. You make mistakes. You learn from them. If I absolutely love the person I’m with and know that this is the person I want to be with forever, I probably would.”
“No amount of protection can save you.”
“As long as you have protection, go for it.”
“Sex is awesome, and anybody who doesn’t agree with that has issues.”
“Sex equals babies, and babies aren’t always fun.”
We also asked these students if they, personally, would have sex in high school. 13 out of 30 females said yes, and 17 out of 30 females said no.
I was so surprised that almost half of these students said yes to that question. I’ve always been told that sex is something special, and something that should be saved for someone you know you’re going to be with forever.
Which brings me to the final question these girls were also asked: Do you think sex should be special or not?
22 out of 30 said yes. 8 out of 30 said no.
This one had me thinking… why wouldn’t sex be considered special?
I thought about it a lot, and I realized that most girls give up their virginity because they think that -to put it bluntly- having sex with a guy will make him like her.
It’s sad how young girls think that the only way to have a guy truly like them is to offer their body, and assume that afterwards the guy will stick around.
Though many girls in high school facing this situation are blinded from the option of saying no, it’s still there and it’s still a choice.
It’s your body. It’s your choice.
If you’re a female in high school and you don’t want to say no, then that’s your choice. Just make sure you love yourself and your body before expecting someone else to. Make sure you’re not doing it out of insecurities, or to make a guy like you or stay with you.
Always remember that It’s OK to say no! It’s okay to choose to wait. And more importantly, it’s okay to be a virgin.
I feel like my generation has totally thrown the importance and beauty of sex out the window and focuses on sex purely being a tool for pleasure, and pleasure only. I’m not sure when being a virgin became a bad thing and sleeping around became a trend. But this is pretty much the way it is portrayed in my high school. One is looked upon negatively if they choose to abstain from sex.
We all have different beliefs on the meaning and basis of sex, and there really isn’t a solid or definite right or wrong opinion. It’s a personal choice. It’s common these days, but we need not shame those who choose to wait.
Several students at school have already asked me what my personal take is in regards to this topic, so I’d like to share my thoughts with you.
No, I would not give myself to someone in high school. I’m too busy trying to find myself, and I have quite a vision for my future.
Yes, I do think sex should be special. You can’t force a special guy and special moment to happen, and expect it to be real. I do believe when I’m older and wiser, love will be the reason BUT at a much later time in my life, when I’m ready to settle down.
Please, let’s not shame those who choose to wait. And if you choose not to wait, please do it responsibly. Remember, there are risks and consequences if you’re not careful.
Until next time…
P.S. TO THE MALE STUDENTS: What are YOUR thoughts on sex in high school? Would you do it? Should it be special? Do you plan to wait? We’d love to hear your opinions. Comment below and let’s share in this discussion!