Bullies are Like Boogers… No One Likes Them.

This week, I’d like to write about a topic I’ve been wanting to write about for quite some time. Bullying.ouch bullying hurts

The dictionary’s definition of bullying is “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance.”

Unwanted.

Bullying may be unwanted but it is also unneeded. Many of us have enough on our plates and just don’t need someone picking on us all the time.

dont talk about me until you have talked to me dont underestimate me until you challenge me dont judge me until you know meAnd the one thing that confuses me is why so many people get bullied even after movies like Cyberbully came out.

It seems to me like some people get pleasure from making others feel bad about themselves.

A few years ago, one of my friends had a very traumatizing experience with some bullies.

Let’s call her Nancy.

Nancy had just broken up with her first boyfriend, and she had a perfectly valid reason to. She wasn’t ready for a relationship. Nancy’s ex-boyfriend (let’s call him Derek) didn’t take kindly to that and wound up spreading rumors that he had broken up with Nancy because she wanted to get physically intimate with him.

Talk about not handling the situation very well.

Within a matter of days, everyone that knew Nancy and Derek believed theyou dont know their story dont judge rumors that Derek and his friends had spread about Nancy. Behind her back (and to her face), Nancy was called a “slut” and a “whore”.

Even some of her friends were gossiping about her and assuming the worst without even talking to Nancy about it first.

It tore her up to have people so close to her turn their backs and become part of the problem, especially when none of it was even true.

And yes, eventually the rumors faded and everything went back to being as normal as it possibly could, but those memories stuck with Nancy, and she probably won’t ever forget them.

I have another friend who is currently being picked on. We’ll nickname her Becky.

Becky isn’t the most athletic person on earth, and this results deathballin her hiding during dodgeball.

Hiding = not getting hit.

Not getting hit = not getting out.

(For those who do not understand the game of dodgeball, if you get hit by the ball, then you’re out of the game.)

Not getting out = last one left.

As the last one left on her team, the rest of the team consented to yelling at her to catch a ball so one of them could get back in.

Catching a ball wasn’t really the first thing on her mind when she got pelted from all angles.

Recently, one of the older guys in her class has been picking on her because of her lack of athletic ability. A couple weeks ago, she found out that he gets bullied as well. This detail only made her more angry.

“I get it, okay? He gets picked on, but that is no excuse for him to make me
feel like I’m worth nothing and I’m a fail at everything when in reality the one thing I can’t do is catch a dodgeball. You want me to feel sorry for him? Maybe if he didn’t make me feel so sorry for myself, I would.”

So to sum this up, bullying is not fun. It may make you feel like a better you because you’re on a higher status than the person you’re picking on, but in reality…. your status is way, way deep down in the cellar.dont stand by stand up stand strong stand together

As deep down as love in the Grinch’s heart. *BA-DUM-TSS*

Have any of you dealt with situations similar to Nancy and Becky? What are your experiences with bullying? Do share!

Until next time!

~Rina Raj

 

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2 thoughts on “Bullies are Like Boogers… No One Likes Them.

  1. I haven’t been bullied severely because i’m so low on the radar 🙂 But I did have to stand up for my friend who was being picked on for not having an athletic ability and this post reminded me of that….

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